Dependable

In reading some past writing, something dawned on me this evening. I know why the nice guys finish last; why the girls always go for the assholes.

It's that whole "setting the bar low" concept. Nice guys set the bar at a standard that wonderful to begin with. They're sweet and thoughtful all the time so that a girl grows to be accustomed to it. The first time he slips up even a little--he forgets a certain date, calls too late, doesn't send flowers--it's a big deal because typically, he's always so great. Poor guy. Probably didn't even mean to do what he did.

And then there are the jerk-offs. They set the bar so low that anything close to acceptable behaviour suddenly seems like a gift wrapped in gold. They never call, they never remember, they never give mementos or gifts. And you'd think that he'd be called out on it right away, and I bet that he usually is, but then suddenly, a few kind words, dinner, and a sweet kiss goodnight, and he's Romeo compared to what he usually is. No where CLOSE to as consistently sweet as the Nice guy, but compared to what he's normally like, what girl could resist?

The lesson, boys? Set the bar at a level at which you can keep it. Sure you want to woo your woman at the beginning, but don't do it and then stop when you get her. The only reason she signed up in the first place was for what you promised to give her; if you can't keep your promise, then what's to keep her from leaving? Sooner or later, that jerk-off that had the girl, will lose the girl because here's to hoping that she'll realize she's better than that.